And I’m going to be 40….SOMEDAY!

11 Apr
Drunken rock out. Clearly I’m doing my best Freddie Mercury.
So…’When Harry Met Sally’ was on E! the other night. I’ve seen that movie about a kajillion times. I remember my parents referencing that movie to tell me men and women could never be friends. I’m fairly certain my Dad almost knew the spiel verbatim, like some kind of cautionary Gettysburg address or something.
I have always had more guy friends than girl, now the guys are just gay so the Harry/Sally thing turns into the Will/Grace thing, but I never worried about any of then actually liking me (the straight ones), but this scene in the movie has always stuck with me as a reminder.
I moved in with my guy (non-gay) best friend in college (For the sake of this blog, his name will be Harry). We were never single at the same time and I was totally certain there was nothing there because I asked him to Winter Formal in high school (as friends) and was shot down.
Yes I did have blonde hair at one point
As far as I was concerned we were like brother and sister since we were born 5 days apart, went to the same schools since we were 6 and when I was blond, looked similar. So, for three years we lived together and with each other’s boyfriend or girlfriend at certain times. Neither one of our dates ever worried that we liked each other because they figured if something were to happen it would have by our early 20’s.
Harry moved away and I still haven’t found that replacement and it’s been almost 2 years. Now, don’t get me wrong, he’s irreplaceable and I really miss Harry… a lot. But I am still looking for that straight buddy to pal around with, like I make you dinner and you fix crap for me and watch Old School and talk about random historical events and Back to the Future and not worry about him trying to do anything funny.
Now I have to worry about people asking me out to places I do not want to go to on dates and then expect something..physical. As if a $25 date means I have to put out….hookers make better money than that!!! I just want a freakin’ friend. It’s like THAT is harder to find than a date.
A good piece of advice from my crazy Grandma M is she told me to make sure I’m friends with who ever I end up with because once the love is gone you can at least like the person. So, shouldn’t it all start out as friends?

10 Responses to “And I’m going to be 40….SOMEDAY!”

  1. Anonymous April 11, 2010 at 2:56 PM #


  2. MAYBELLINE April 11, 2010 at 7:15 PM #

    >Oh sure. Men and women can be friends…just be aware of all the Harrys out there and enjoy the friendships.You parents are sages.

  3. MAYBELLINE April 12, 2010 at 1:13 AM #

    >make that:Your parents are sages.

  4. Riaz April 12, 2010 at 2:05 AM #

    >I love you. You are awesome and I would live with you if I was in California.

  5. L April 12, 2010 at 7:40 AM #

    >You should Riaz, you would make me listen to all the cool, hip music!!

  6. L April 12, 2010 at 7:48 AM #

    >And I would make you watch Tootsie!


  1. I’m Just A Poor Girl, Nobody Loves Me « - July 1, 2011

    […] two year, we moved in to an apartment with my best friend, Harry. I do not recommend do that, unless you want to hate everything about the person you date. […]

  2. You’re A Pal and A Confidant « - July 7, 2011

    […] person from my days at Highland Elementary, is Harry. I’ve known him since we were 6 but we didn’t become pals until high school when Harry […]

  3. Fade In « - May 18, 2012

    […] already have a best guy friend who’s a total push over, I can NOT handle another one. NEXT! “It’s all in the family.” […]

  4. Girly Man « - July 3, 2012

    […] sat around, talking about their feelings. Sure, ‘When Harry Met Sally’ might have made me wish I could date a guy who’s my best friend, but if he’s just my best friend, he’s […]

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: